In the past we had sex and there was feelings, on my part anyway. Things were short lived as it ended up just being sex before we went our separate ways.
He got in touch with me over the past few months, we’ve spoke about a lot of stuff and he opened up to me about the past. We’ve been getting on really well and my feelings for him have started to come back. We’ve been talking 24/7 from the minute we get up until one of us falls asleep.
He had brought up the previous times we had sex and how much he enjoyed it and I told him I want something more meaningful and won’t be rushing to have sex with him, he said he respects that but kept brining it up. He said it’s just a bit of a joke etc.
He then brought up that he doesn’t know what he wants but that he likes me and wants to see where things go because in his words he doesn’t know if he’ll “be ready soon enough” for me. Then said he’s really scared to care about someone right now.
As he messed me about a bit in the past, I told him I’m not hanging around to be messed about for a second time if he’s uncertain with what he wants and he replied “I’m not messing you about, I just don’t want to rush into anything because I’m worried you’ll see me as the guy who hurt you before, I just wanted to take it slow so that you know I’m not going anywhere.”
I’m so confused now as to what to think and feel about everything, I’ve never once tried to rush anything, I’ve told him it’ll take a while for him to build my trust up and now he tells me this. It seems like he’s trying to use that as a cop out and after I told him I don’t know what to think, he said “I’d understand if you just want to be friends for now.”
TL:DR is he just making up excuses or is he being genuine?? I really don’t know what to do now
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