I've been talking to a girl for 3 months now from a dating app, and on snapchat/Instagram since. Seen her only twice because of the virus we cant see each other. She told me she is very scared of the virus, and takes dating really slow. I believe she might have a potential traumatic experience from the past. She said shes looking for a relationship long term. But things are a little cold compared to before, when we used to flirt all the time to each other, and list endless things to do together after lockdown. Ie, she has stopped putting a x at the end of sentence, but she has done that before, stopped adding music to the playlist she made for me. We havent video called in a month, to watch things on netflix together. It's just little things.
Despite this, we still text everyday on snapchat, and we have good conversations. She keeps convos going when theres an opportunity to stop. And when conversations have dried up, and we both leave each other on read, and when I try to give her a little space. She has been the one to initiate conversations, asking how it's going etc. We didnt message for 2 days once, and she messaged me first asking how I was. And shes initiated a lot more than I have. She also occasionally forwards posts of things to me on instagram.
They are good signs I imagine? But because things have slowed down and we cant see each other, I tried to set up a video call with her about 2 week ago. And she said "well I've been getting up lately at 6am, and going sleep really early so not sure on timing ahah x" mind you we used to facetime at 9pm till midnight, when she goes sleep 9-11ish, and she has anaemia meaning she gets tired easily, but still it threw me off.
We both have each other as friends on ps4, and we talked about star wars battlefront before which we both downloaded. I asked her today is she wants to play together online at some point. And she replied "yeah when I get some free time, that would be cool, mind you i am awful at games ahaha" I replied saying when you're free let me know
Am I overthinking this? I know for sure she has pulled back a bit compared to before. But when I've given her opportunities to have some space she has messaged me first. What do I do from here, because i want to still do things together virtually, to keep it fresh, but not getting anywhere with me asking her recently. Even though I believe shes given valid excuses. But I dont want to come off as needy. Shall I just keep texting her until after lockdown. And shall I no longer initiate doing virtual dates?
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