I need advice.
I (19F) went on my boyfriend’s(19M) phone to look at instagram. ((He knew I had his phone because I look at the priv meme pages he follows on instagram)). I trusted that he would never be “slimey” or “untrustworthy” & he had given me no reason to believe he was either. He honestly has set himself apart from today’s “typical guys.”
But then I noticed that there was an arrow by his account name, meaning he was logged into multiple accounts. I got nosy & looked. He has 2 private accounts that only follows hot girls & porn accounts. He uses these accounts the same as he would with porn. Even though that doesn’t make me feel good, it’s not something I can’t get over.
What bothers me is that he had an old inappropriate video of his ex girlfriend saved on one of those accounts. He took it & stored it there about 6 months before we even met. But he kept it.
I confronted him on it & he said that even though he still occasionally uses those private accounts that he hasn’t look at the video since long before we started dating & that he honestly doesn’t know why he didn’t delete it; that it didn’t even register with him because that’s how unimportant the video was to him.
He’s stated numerous times that he no longer has feelings for his ex & he never thinks of her; that’s been something I’ve been insecure about in the past because she was his first girlfriend.
I WANT to believe him more than anything. This is so out of character for him & I would have never expected this. But it makes me feel like I can’t trust him. I feel so bitter & petty towards him because this genuinely hurt me.
I don’t want this to ruin our relationship. What do I do? How do I handle this?
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