Please help me. I don’t know what’s happening lol, I was lead on after breakup
Am I wrong to feel this way?
Me and my ex gf are both 21 (i will be in 2 months)
We broke up on the 3rd of April, mainly due to communicative issues. 3 days after our 1 year.
She cited many of the issues we had, and acted cold and hateful towards me.
During our breakup, she treated me terribly, I pissed her off because I wanted to make things work but she didn’t.
However, after finding out (I think this is what happened) I started to move on (She told me to as well!) she comes back (I am talking to this amazing girl) and she’s telling me things like how she didn’t think I loved her and whatnot. I admit it, this girl was me getting over my ex, but it’s different I really like her, we click amazingly.
Anyways,
She messaged me at 2AM last night wanted to talk about things. I told her fine, and we called around 10:30, and we talked for about 4 hours.
She told me this at the very end by the way:
She told me she initially called me to apologies (She treated me not the best during the breakup), and we caught up, talking about how things went down, what we could have done better, and how things could be better.
She also exclaims to have never given thought to the idea of us getting back together, yet she entertains it?
We started talking about getting back together, and it was going really well at one point, we were talking about our futures together, and how we’re going to hang out and whatnot over the summer.
However, after a while of talking, she starts doubting if it’s a good idea: she’s torn, and what’s to be with me, but content with being alone.
She also said: she didn’t want me to move on, and she didn’t want to either. I didn’t want to move on either, but I thought it was over for good, so I started moving on.
She started insulting the girl, saying stuff like: she’s not your type, she has weird tattoos and she wears pink? I’m not sure
We keep going back and forth until she says she doesn’t want anything with us right now.
Dropping breadcrumbs like: maybe in the future when we’re both single, we can try again, but she doesn’t want to right now.
She doesn’t want a relationship and wants to be alone, and it’s not you, it’s me.
She even said after I said I’m never enough, she said: yes you are, you are amazing.
She told me I was a great boyfriend, and I was great. So no matter what, it seems like I’m not good enough?
But she just wants to be alone.
She strung me along, the whole time, saying she didn’t think the conversation of us getting back together was even possible.. but SHE CONTRIBUTED A TON TO THAT.
She said she was sorry, but I kept my composure, didn’t cry, or yell, I told her how I felt: I was mad, and disappointed that she would do this to me. For what? Attention? I don’t know.
She doesn’t want me to wait around on her as that’s not fair to me, and not to her either.
Do I ever contact her again? Am I wrong to feel this way? I’m not devastated, I told her I’m really upset, pissed, annoyed and disappointed and I am, and basically hung up. Ending on her feeling bad, as she should for how she lead me on.
I hope she’s not the one that got away 🙁
Am I the toxic one? Am I the issue? Am I not good enough? I’m so very lost and confused right now.
Any advice? I’m so mind ducked right now.
tl;dr : ex gf broke up with me out of nowhere, comes back after she told me to move on, wants to get back together, changes her mind, and doesn’t want a relationship.
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