I don't care for politics but lately I've been finding out more that my gf cares about it. She's applied her political points of view on me whenever we have arguments and always wants a resolution at the same time.
I've told her that I don't want to do that when emotions are running high. She takes that as me threatening to break up with her because I go radio silent for a day or two. We've addressed the fact that there are communication issues, but to me it seems that it's fault because of the way I deal with it.
When things go wrong I like to look at all of what happened in that day and the last week to identify any problems I'm having unrelated to her that I may attribute to her. A source of stress for me is the fact I only have a few friends. The pandemic struck a little while after I'd gotten rid of a toxic friend group.
I've attempted to rationalize and analyze what I've said and done but I realize that I haven't ever assessed compatibility issues. She wants me to be more like her politically and I don't want to because I haven't done enough of my own research to choose for myself. I'm not just going to change for another person because they told me so. I could be convinced through a calm and rational discussion to change my neutrality, but trying to do so in the midst of an argument won't make that happen.
For reference, we've been dating for about 2 months now. Most of the time we get along well and it's fun, but I think that now if a person can't handle problems well after a couple discussions it's pretty much a deal breaker.
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