I(21 M) have been single my entire life. It was not a big deal for me till highschool, College was the first time that I really felt like I was missing out on something. I was focused on my career so I didn't miss much companionship, but during my final year, it dawned upon me if not now then when would I meet someone. I got rejected instantly by my batchmates, but didn't care much and moved on. Then I started trying online dating. It was not good, got no matches for a month of regular use so deleted it. Then I don't know why I reinstalled it, got few matches didn't hit it off with anyone. But then there was this girl that I matched with during this lockdown and boy was I attracted to her. To my surprise, the conversation went quite smoothly and got the phone no. I talked to her for over a month and boy did I overthink all of that completely. A few weeks ago I started to notice that only I am driving the conversation and she is literally just giving 1-word answers to everything. My friend suggested to not message her for some days and see if she notices, and you know what happened she didn't notice it. My friend suggested me to move on and find some other chick ( like if that is easy). But now my self-confidence is shattered, I have even cried that I will be forever alone. I hadn't even seen her in real life and still, it has been so difficult I don't know why. I don't know I never took rejection badly but this hurts so much. I really thought she was the one. I am so tempted to message her but my friend suggested to leave it. I think I want closure on what did I do wrong and what can I improve upon, so should I text her.
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