I (24F) met this guy (24M) on an app and we really hit it off. We started talking right around when our area went on lockdown for the pandemic, so we weren’t able to get a date going right away. We talked for about 2 months before we said we couldn’t wait to meet anymore, and I ended up going to his house for dinner and a movie. It went really well, and we even planned for a second date that was supposed to happen last weekend but ended up getting cancelled because he ended up having some last minute school work he needed to do (yes, sounds like it could be a cop-out but I do trust that is what happened for a wide number of reasons). The days after what was supposed to be our date, he kept saying we will make up for it very soon but never really said when.
It’s now been 2 weeks since our first date, so I’m feeling like if we don’t have another one soon, we won’t have another one at all. I’m willing to wait if he’s busy, but I don’t want to wait if he isn’t interested and just giving me a pity date.
I noticed he’s been a little distant the past couple of days, but he also apologized for not texting much and said he’s been super busy. (We’ve texted throughout the day every single day since we started talking, and two nights ago was the first time it took him almost an entire day to reply).
I overthink and worry a lot. And I don’t wanna come off clingy or invite myself over to his place. But I really want a second date and want to know if he still wants one too. I’m just not sure how to ask? I don’t want to say “when can I come over again?” and unfortunately with my living situation, I can’t invite him to my place (Strict parents).
Any advice on how I should go about this? Does it sound like he truly is just busy or is he trying to distance himself to get out of a second date?
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