I'll make the story short as possible so you could understand most of it from my perspective.
8 years ago I met a girl during her traveling and we fell in love with each other, After a while, we stopped contacting each other and basically our lives went in different directions.
8 Years from that point we found ourselves speaking to each other again, I flew to her country and spent nearly 2 months together with her and we have an amazing time together, During this, she mentioned to me few times that "We are not dating" even tho we had a lot of romantic stuff going.
And yet, After about a month she flew to my country and we spend even more time together, After she went back home we start planning our next trip where we would meet again for about 2 weeks.
So during the 3rd time we met already, I, unfortunately, discovered some photos and texts on her phone, Basically a week before we met she decided to do some sexual stuff with another guy that also had a girlfriend (which she met), Once I knew about it and she didn't deny I felt like my heart was broken and torn to pieces.
The feeling was absolutely awful……. we had a rough couple of days after.. mostly speaking.. trying to understand what's going on.
Somehow before she left the country again we discussed to give ourself a try in a real relationship and since that moment I have basically moved to her country to be with her.
The main problem is that this thing that happened right before we met troubles me deeply, every day I think about it, And some time by mistake I even get reminded by seeing this guy on some WhatsApp groups they share, It's really hard for me to function and have a normal relationship when this keeps floating above my head.
I feel some sort of trauma Like little things reminds me of this and takes me back to that moment I discovered about it and basically ruins both mine and her day.
From her side, She apologized multiple times and told me she deeply regrets that she did it, But at this point, nothing really helps, We are considering going to a psychologist and try to somehow solve this problem so we can maybe have a normal relationship with each other.
Technically we're not together as a couple during that time so It's not considered as cheating, But for me, it feels really like the same, Also It really troubles me the fact that she didn't care at all that the guy had a girlfriend, Every little thing reminds me of what she did (which I, unfortunately, know to detail).
Please if anyone has good advice that might save my relationship I would be very grateful.
What would you do in my situation?
Would you still have a relationship in those circumstances?
Any advice here is good advice.
Much appreciated
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