I was dating this guy for about 3 months. It was too fast for him in the beginning so we slowed down then covid hit. We’ve been talking everyday since and he would drop by my place once a week to pick up the cookies and cakes that I baked.
On the day my country just lifted our lockdown, he went drinking with his friends and got really drunk. I found out he was out from his insta story and we’ve been talking throughout the day. I just thought he was busy at work as normal so his reply was slow.
I texted him before seeing his insta story. Basically said that I want to check in on him and I. I tend to overthink and I get anxiety so I just want to know to keep my mind and feelings in check. He replied instantly saying he was drunk.
I replied saying I think I know where this is going. I also told him about mirror effort which basically means both side have to invest equally. I want to learn to let go of people and things that I shouldn’t invest and it’s okay.
He replied a few hours later that he got home and he’s really drunk. I didn’t reply and I won’t anymore. I’m so proud of myself. Even if it hurts but I now know to recognise these red flags and I deserve better 🙂
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