I recently had a close friend tell me she's interested in me, but she's been pretty hesitant about getting more intimate with each other. I've tried spending time with her alone but we've only been in a friend group setting since she told me.
I was pretty confused about why her words weren't matching her actions, or the effort she was putting in, so I talked to her about it earlier today. Basically she said that mainly had to do with still not being completely sure if this is what she wants. She told me awhile ago she isn't totally healed/over a previous relationship, and it's prevented her from getting into anything since. I think she does want to put herself out there again, but is afraid of getting hurt again. She did mention that I'm a great guy and friend, I treat her well and she doesn't have a reason not to date me. Except she feels like she need to "get her shit together". Also a minor thing was that some days we spent together after seeing our friends would be kinda awkward, and others days we just vibed and had a good time.
I get where she's coming from and we've had a similar conversation before, but I feel like I actually like her a lot and I'm confused on what to do. Part of me doesn't mind waiting for a minute, but I'm not sure how long I should give her. The other part of me feels like if she's unsure or doubting, she probably doesn't like me enough for it to last. I would appreciate any advice on how to go about this.
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