Some relationship advice from someone who has been in way too many relationship ( just had these realizations and wanted to share to help fellow redditors)

Hi I have been in alot of relationship in the past few years. This lockdown gave me a lot of time to think over it all and realize all the mistakes and lessons that I learnt from them. I just wanted to share them with everyone so that someone else doesn't make the same mistakes that I did.

1. Communicate: You have an issue, you talk about it. Don't try to bury it, don't try to ignore it. If you don't its gonna gonna back to haunt you later with much more problems. I have been at both sides and trust me all the times when either of us communicated the things have been better.

2. Don't rush: I want to focus on this one. Most of the times I rushed into relationships because my initial interaction was great. Each and every time those relationship were great in the starting but ended on a terrible note. Get to know the other person. Some might turn out to be good but why not wait and get to know the other person first.

3. Don't feel the same way anymore say it: Its natural people drift apart. If you think you don't feel the same way anymore. Convey it for the sake of the other person. It will hurt them more in the future.

4. Love yourself, don't look for external validation: This one is very common and everyone says it. If you don't love yourself you would not mind a toxic relationship. You would be happy with any kind of love you get.

5. Keep the expectations clear with each other: Just say what you expect from the relationship. It can be anything sex, companionship, serious partner, future life partner, anything. It is the humane thing to do.

6. Not everyone can be fixed so don't try too much: I dated a few who had psychological issues. I thought I could fix them. In the end it became too exhausting for me. You can fix few not everyone. Give your best. Stay if you truly are serious else move on.

7. You are not a second option: Don't be with someone if they say or feel that they are with you because the person they like doesn't reciprocate the feelings and you are the second best alternative.

8. Stay away from the crazy ones: I once dated someone with whom the condom burst on the second date. She did not want to have any pill and suggested marriage. I should have ran then but I didn't. Ended horribly.

9. Sleeping with someone else is not how you move on: Earlier after every serious breakup I used to sleep with a ton of women. Over time you get desensitized to the idea of proper dating, you can't do it anymore. It took me a while to get back to normal. Moreover it is not healthy.

Sorry, if it has been long. Hope it helps you.