Being an ugly man is a horrible nightmare that doesn’t end, and people need to stop acting like it’s easy to “just get over it”
Preface: Im a 25 year old virgin. I don’t hate women, nor do I blame them for anything, it’s not their fault they have preferences, I’m only angry at myself for being ugly. I’m also disappointed my ugly parents thought it was a good idea to have me, knowing probably quite well I will end up as ugly if not uglier than them, and suffer my entire life for it.
It’s perfectly reasonable for women to want good looking boyfriends, it’s just a shame I can never be one of these men, and can never experience a life of beauty and the feeling of being desired by someone.
Ok into my rant.
I’m very, very tired of hearing the same insincere shit from people;
“Stop focusing on your looks”
Your looks are the initial basis for how every interaction you ever have in life will go. If your face makes people uncomfortable, EVERY SINGLE INTERACTION YOU HAVE with another human being in life, is going to start negatively.
Not many men are charismatic enough to overcome a shitty first impression. Women seem to regularly offer this empty platitude of, “just be confident and funny! Be the centre of attention!women love a confident guy who can make them laugh”
The trouble with this is… this level of extroversion, coupled with charm, charisma and confidence is not very common to see in men, and those who are like that, often practised for YEARS to develop that kind of confidence and comfort around people in general, let alone women.
Men don’t like getting rejected either. Most men do not want to do all the work only to have it thrown in your face in a rejection. Most men can’t deal with pressure, and most men aren’t “resilient tough guys who are still confident despite all the adversity life throws at them”. That’s an unrealistic and harmful expectation of men that totally ignores the fact that men are people with feelings too, people who want to be loved, cuddled and shown affection, and not be left out in the cold, and told to be stoic about not getting touched by another human in years or decades, because muh masculinity hurrr
First impressions form in seconds, for both men who are contemplating befriending you, and women contemplating whether they’d consider dating you. If a woman’s first thought when she sees your face is immediately “errr… poor guy he’s so weird looking”, it’s game over already. Most men will never be spectacular comics, entertainers and brilliantly interesting people with complex lives and bright, high level personalities which are constantly engaging and interesting. Men like that don’t exist
“Only superficial stupid women focus on looks”
this is totally false, there’s a study by Dansinnott. 2017. “The tables have turned when it comes to dating…” High Street Gent.
That tells us 70% if women would avoid or ignore a man solely because of how he looks.
Here are some quotes:
Women are more shallow than men when it comes to judging people on looks. According to the poll, just 31 per cent of male respondents admitted that they would ignore or avoid someone of the opposite sex based upon their looks, compared to a massive 70 per cent of female respondents admitted that they would ignore or avoid the opposite sex because of the way they looked.
JUST MAKE FRIENDS WITH A GIRL FIRST BRO! LOL!
“Get a hobby, there’s more to life than just sex”
There’s more to life than food and water too, but you know what happens if you go without food and water? Yep, you die. How do you think going years, If not your whole life, without something so important as human contact, affection and intimacy affects you? Lack of food and water kills the body, lack of human intimacy kills the soul. You decide which is worse honestly.
“Nobody will love you before you first learn how to love yourself”
my brother is male model level in looks. He was depressed and suicidal, started smoking and drinking, hated himself. He met a girl who fell in love with him, and she couldn’t even tell me why, other than she “felt an impulse to take care for him and support him”. It’s plain false that you need to love yourself, if you’re an attractive man, your good looks evoke feelings of care, support and love in women, as evidenced by my brothers current girlfriend. As an unattractive guy, I can factually state no woman has ever given a flying fuck about me AT ALL, about caring for me, supporting me, attending to all my needs. These are the words my brothers girlfriend used!
“Tinder isn’t real life lol just focus on building a friendship with a woman first, the right girl will come along”
I already showed why building friendship is tough if not impossible when you’re ugly (70% of women avoid or ignore you just because of how you look). Is tinder real life? Yes it is, there’s no reason why it wouldn’t be.
In real life there are people who want one night stands, people who want friends, and people who want serious relationships. In tinder, you have the same groups of people, nothing changes, tinder is not full of people magically focused on looks in the app and who totally forget about looks in real life lmao
Tinder is the horrifying reality of what real life is for ugly men.
This is fucking miserable hahaha LOL though it’s satisfying to be masochistic about it and laugh at my pain
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