I really hope to get some advice from you. First some background info, I'm a 23F and I was in a relationship for 2 years, after I broke up I thought to take some time for me and just focus on my ownself, but then after a few months I've met a real cute guy at the bar.
During that night I wasn't thinking much of him, just thought I should enjoy the moment and that's it. We were kinda on the same page I think.
After that we went on a few dates and the issue for me was that I really liked this guy, I also kept on going on dates with him, but at the same time I was afraid that I will fall too soon and I wasn't ready for that. My friends kept telling me to stop dating him if I don't wanna fall for him, but that wasn't an easy option for me.
As time passed by, I'ne noticed that he also kinda felt the same. He was in a relationship for 1.5 Y and the way these guys broke up, it was clear to know that there was still a little love left.
So basically we both went on dates and somehow both feeling a bit confused, but also a bit excited.
After 2 months, I was feeling that I'm almost falling for him and he also told me that he hates the fact that he started to like me so quick, that normally he really wanted to take things slow and he also wanted to take care of himself and I kinda just came by surprise and very unexpected in his life.
Anyway then came the day where he met his ex and he told me that he is feeling very confused cause he doesn't know if he wanna get back to her because of them having a lot of good memories, but he mentioned also many issues OR if he wanna start a whole new thing with me.
At that moment I said that he should go back to her, cause at the end of the day, me and him were just occasionally doing things and we never promised each other anything or gave all this a label.
So what I did, was accept that and let him go. One side I was feeling a bit disappointed an on the other side I was thinking aight, right when I was aboutto fall for him, we quit so I should be fine.
During the whole quarantine, I was thinking about this guy, missing our times, but also feeling happy to know he is happy again.
Until a few days ago, where he liked a few of my pics even though we unfollowed each other, I was kinda surprised, but then I saw he was single again.
I've waited a few days, thinking he will text me, but he didn't, so I just went for it. He then told me that he was afraid to text me and hoping I would do.
So, on Friday he just showed up at a bar that I work, and omg I felt as if I was falling for him right there, but I thought I should better ignore him.
After a few mins he came to talk to me, we had a lil awkward chit chat and that's it. Before leaving he asked me if I could spend a little time with him, but I had to work for a few more hours so I declined.
Yesterday he texted me telling me that he was happy to se me being happy and I've said that I missed him, but seeing him was enough for me. He replied by saying that seeing me was also enough for me. Then I said good to know and he was like oh no I think I misubderstood something here, thinking you don't want anything more with me (but that's actually what I meant haha).
We chatted for a while and then he told me was in a very bad phase in life and I told him he should give himself some time, focus on him and if he feels like chilling with me one day, I'd be down for that. All these messages he only liked and didn't reply.
Guys I am so confused, I really wanna get to know this guy more, but I know I need more time, he needs more time and we're both not ready and maybe a bit hurt from the past, so it's not the right timing.
But is there really something out there like right timing? If it was up to me, I would live my life for a while and let him do the same and maybe after a few months our paths would cross again.
But I really don't know, I am so confused.
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