The Jester of Dating

Hello reddit,

I wanted to tell you a little story on not what to do with a girl, who likes you

Background: it was the beginning of a fall semester, it my first day of a stem course(1 time a week), and mostly full of guys with 3 girls in the mix. I quickly debunked the idea of talking to any of the girls, although it was “first come, first seat”. I was nervous of the idea of just going for it, even though one of the girls caught my eyes. We’ll call her A. Fast forward, 2 weeks the professor decides to do a seating chart, and guess what. Bam I’m sitting next to her. I didn’t talk to her the first time around, but the week that came up changed that.

2nd week of the seat chart, We started to do individual projects. Class were 4 hours long, and i ended up getting stuck within the first hour. I made a small comment to myself “Im screwed”. Well i guess she heard because she replied with “ omg me too, what part of u stuck on”. From there on, we didn’t stop talking. the assignment wasn’t due until next class, so we ended chatting about interest and our cultural for 3 hours. She was nepalese and i was Mexican. She had a beautiful accent. Well after class, i did ask her for her number for “school work” hehehe. But, i never did actually text her anything :(.

Fast forward, to next class session. We see each other and we both give out a excited “hey” and start talking bout the dreadful week that past. Like if we knew each other for a while, didn’t feel awkward or nervous at all. It felt…Natural. During the middle of class, i gave her a “wow i never realized you have a beautiful smile”. Well this caused her to start laughing and cover her mouth while turning a little red and saying“ haha no i dont”. What ensued, was us talking almost the whole class period, laughing, with some arm touching from her. I did end up getting compliments from her too, such as on my tallness(6’3) and saying im funny. I sometimes would make a funny comment, which wasn’t really funny when i thought about it again. but too her, she thought it was hilarious. Even-though we would chat for like almost 2 hours of the class period. I would walk her halfway to her car(i parked in a different lot). And before saying goodbye, we would have another 30-45 min convo, even waving bye to the professor as he walked by.( he stays in class for a good while after class ends ). Gave her the side hug when she left lol. Everything felt like it going to good, after a bit. The seating schedule didn’t apply anymore so it was back to first come first serve, and we sat in the back row, I thought this was it. Due too sometimes be late to class by 10-15min. Well turned out, she didn’t like the idea either. And would message me “ where are you” “saving you a seat”. This was the point, where i should’ve, surprised her with a nice day out, but the chicken in me didn’t let me.

Fast forward, to final week. We finish our exam. And we are sad to see each other go. We talked for 1 hour after class ended, we had one of this moments, where it goes silent and all you see is nothing but a big smile and direct eye contact. Well instead of leaning in, i said “ gonna miss u, hopefully we don’t lose contact”, she replied enthusiastically, “ yea, text me whenever”. And gave her a hug and left.

This is where the jester enters(me).

fast forward, to Christmas break. I send her a text, “wishing her a merry christmass” No reply. 3 weeks later, send her another text. She reply’s, with a srry and a big hey. I thought not much of it, and just tried to nail a day out with her. Well, after 2 days of texting, she agrees to hang out at a starbucks around 7, The next day.

The day arrives, we confirm midday we will make it. So 6:10 comes along, i get a text “ hey just got here, gonna do a bit of hw before u arrive”. I was surprised, that she showed up 1 hour early, instead of canceling for hw. Well my smart self, thought it was a good idea to toke up for a bit with my friend and meet her after. What happened was a mess. 6:50 rolls around, i haven’t left my house, and it was 20 min drive. I called her saying “ sorry having bad traffic be there quick”. 25 min later, i was late by like 18 minutes. I walked in nervous, due to being late due to my selfish vice. Well that didn’t matter, because the second I saw her, her smile was the purest thing i felt that month. We talked for 2 hours like old friends, she would causally touch my hand after dieng of laughter, At my mediocre joke. Made me feel like George Lopez. After that bit, it was loud and crowded in starbucks, and i suggested we should go outside ( little chilly), so we can smoke out of my dab pen. She goes along with, and she points at a bench, i dumbly said nah, and point at two seats and a table. The table separated us a bit, she was farther than before. And she just sat there, watching me smoke my pen. I would sometimes tell her “would u like a hit”. And she would respond kindly “no”. Well that half a hour went kinda awkward. And we decide to end it, and same thing happened(like in the semester), when saying our goodbyes. Silence with direct eye contact and a smile, for a good 5 seconds. And me just saying, “ had a great time, ill text you later”. And leaving.

P.s also i didn’t buy a coffee for me or her, due to her having one already. So she was the only one with a coffee the whole time. Did i do bad on that part also?