So we (He’s 20M and I’m 20F) met the first day we moved into our building, pretty much became friends right away and meshed our friend groups. We hung out several times a week in small groups and also alone pretty often. We were both in relationships for months but always had a connection and knew the other found us attractive. A few months ago he broke up with his gf and then soon after, my bf and I broke up as well. We immediately became fwb and hung out almost every day. We both agree the sex is amazing.
I’ve had a crush on him for longer than I’d like to admit, but I’m not sure if he feels the same way. He does things like sleeps over even when we aren’t having sex or hangs out with me when I’m on my period and we would make food together and just chat for hours. He would call me on my walk home late at night to make sure I got home safe and he asks about my day and listens to all my rambling. We’ve taken care of each other when we’re sick and comfort each other when we’re going through stuff. When I got cheated on, he came over with my favourite snack and sat and listened to me for hours. He compliments me often about things that aren’t just physical, like my laugh or my personality. We even helped each other move out when Covid-19 started. We spent the night together packing and drinking wine and he even let me play country music which he says he hates but that night said it wasn’t even bad and didn’t mind listening to it.
His best friend/roommate tells my best friend about how whipped we are for each other, and I know he talks about me to his friends.
He’s also so loving and touchy which in the past I’ve told him he needs to stop because I would catch feelings, he slowed down with it but kept it up.
He makes me laugh all the time and we get along so well. We have the same morals and values and I just enjoy having him around so much.
So since covid19 started, we went back home which is an hour apart. We snapchat every day and sometimes text, we always send each other funny things and have conversation all day. I saw him the night we moved out and again today since I was driving past his house to visit my mom so we planned to hangout. I met his parents and for half the time I was there we just chatted and hung out with his dog because he knows I love dogs so much. When I was leaving, he kissed me and said that when he can get the car he will come visit me.
To my knowledge I’m the only one he’s sleeping with and vice versa, even though we agreed we can sleep with other people. When we lived in the same building until covid-19, we saw each other every day so I know he wasn’t seeing anyone else, as well as right now his parents are pretty strict on quarantine and his best friend and I were the only ones allowed over. He also said that he isn’t actively looking for others to sleep with. The issue is I’ve known since the start that he has pretty big commitment issues. We joke about it and I always say I wanna pick his brain about it but we’ve only briefly talked about that stuff, and he doesn’t really know where it comes from. He’s said things like “don’t get whipped” but he admitted that before we started sleeping tg he knew I had a crush. Basically it takes him a long time to commit to someone. I know he’s also had issues with taking too much responsibility about his past gfs mental health, he’s dated a few girls that were all struggling with mental health and he was really their rock which affected him a lot.
I can’t get him off my mind, and can’t help but feel like he has a bit of a soft spot for me. We know each other well and are very comfortable together, I would ultimately like to try out a relationship but I’m not sure how to go about it. I also don’t know if I’m just overthinking all the stuff he does and maybe he doesn’t like me like that. Some of my friends say they think he would try it out because it’s me but some say I should save myself the hurt and move on. I really just enjoy him as a person and wouldn’t want to lose him.
Open to suggestions or tips or advice if you have any! Thank you!!
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