My ex and I (both in our early 20s) broke up for many things between us in the relationship had gone wrong.
But there is one thing that I never confronted him about fully, because I was hesitant to seem controlling, so I want to ask you guys for your opinion.
He’s always had many friends who are girls and many of them were weirdly women he had slept with before. After dating me, of course he wouldn’t sleep with anybody else, but he’s made it clear to me from the beginning that he still talks to girls he’s had things with in the past , but purely AS FRIENDS. Again, I’ve never doubted that he would cheat on me with these female friends and I did trust that it was just friendship, even tho this really did make me a little uncomfortable.
However, there was this one girl who he has been platonic friends with for a while, who he had clearly told me before that “she definitely has a thing for him.” And that made me really uncomfortable, but after, once when I was out of town, he and his friend group (all male except that girl friend) went on a weekend trip. He told me that, one night, he and the girl slept in the same cabin bed (because apparently she didn’t feel comfortable sharing the same bed as her other friends). I was upset that he just let her do this, especially after making it clear to me that she liked him. This was all when he and I were dating.
I know he did not initiate anything or do anything that is flirty/cheating, but it really made me feel disrespected and offended.
Was what he did weird/unacceptable from you guys’ perspective? Was this a red flag that I should’ve confronted in the relationship?
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