Hi so basically title. I am 20 years old and have never been on an "actual" date in my life. Sure I've had a couple of talking stages, but they never led to a serious relationship. I spent 2 years in a situationship and that ended terribly. I just get so sad when I think I am turning 21 this year and I've never been in an actual relationship. I know finding someone isn't the end all be all, but sometimes having someone is nice. I know that your life should be the cake and a relationship is the cherry on top, but I can't help but wonder what's wrong with me. Some stats about myself is that I am 5 1' and weigh around 135-140 lbs and workout regularly. I know that looks shouldn't manner so I try to not get caught up in that world, but I would say I'm just average. I've always been known as the studious type, but I'm not sure why this would ruin my chances of finding someone. Realistically speaking, my odds of finding someone worthwhile on Tinder are slim. I tried the app before and nothing good came of it. I tried having meaningful conversation, hooked up here and there, but didn't find want I truly want: a stable, thoughtful partner.
Guys always seem to get along with me and I usually end up in the friend zone…Most of my guy friends have told me they think I'm so easy to talk to and that I just get it…but they've never expressed a romantic interest in me. I'm also not awkward or shy, I can converse quite well regardless of who I'm speaking to. I try to be nice and earnest and as much myself as I can. I accommodate to others in conversation to make sure I'm not making the other person uncomfortable…I would say I'm a pretty personable person, but I'm not sure why I have never dated a single person in my short 20 years of life. I get nervous sometimes because society puts this pressure on women to get married and have kids. As much as I hate sexist ideologies, I've made it my own decision that I eventually do want to get married and have kids, by personal choice and the fact that it's expected of me, just makes things easier. I also want to excel in my career and personal self-actualization, so I'm by no means cutting myself short. It's not a bad thing to want to be a mom and get married.
Am I the problem? Are my standards too high? Any tips/suggestions?
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