I recently got a long email with the question from a woman. What to do when my boyfriend is ignoring me?
Of course, I responded to her and gave her a couple of suggestions.
The first thing, which will always be helpful to all women is that if your boyfriend is ignoring you, you need to make a pattern interrupt.
A pattern interrupt is when you say or do something that changes how you do or approach certain aspects of your relationship, and it can be as simple as changing how often you respond to his text messages.
If you are quick to respond to him, you can wait for a couple of minutes sometimes.
It might make him start thinking about you…
… Worrying about you…
… and start to behave differently and treat you better.
Of course, it is not always your fault that your boyfriend is ignoring you because maybe he has a lot to think about or a lot of things to do.
You need to do a lot of thinking as well.
Maybe, just maybe, it was something careless that you said or did to him that actually made him ignore you.
However, there are a couple of things you can do, which I discuss below.
My Boyfriend Is Ignoring Me – What Should I Do?
Sometimes it is a little thing you did that will lead your boyfriend to ignore you.
I hate to be a bringer of bad news, but maybe he’s cheating on you.
If he is cheating on you, there are a couple of visible signs to look out for, and one of them is that he’s ignoring you as well as these useful tips that you find in this article.
However, things doesn’t have to be as bad as cheating.
It can be that he’s ghosted you, and even if it is a horrible thing to do, it is not as bad as betraying the woman you claim to love.
If he did ghost you, you will still be better off without him, right?
Take a Dive in the Sea of Jealousness
A powerful, yet risky way is to try and make him jealous of another guy.
Ever heard the expression: A boy doesn’t want to play with a new toy unless another boy starts to play with it?
If you hang out with other guys and just enjoy the time socialising with them, you will make him jealous of those guys who hang out with you, even if he knows that they are just your friends.
You will start his jealous drive or his competitive drive as it is sometimes referred to, if you do it the right way.
I have to give you a fair warning here, do NOT overuse it.
If you do, you might risk driving him into the arms if another woman, so there is a fine balance that you need to keep here.
In this article, I cover what you should do to make him want you.
Conversation Is Always the Key
Communication or conversation is the real key to succeed in any relationship with a man.
However, you have to us the right style of communication.
It isn’t just what you say that determines whether you will be successful, but also how you say it, and when you say it.
If his favourite TV-show is on, it might not be the best time to talk to him.
Then, you have to wait for a while and talk to him later, otherwise, you might have come across the real reason why he ignores you.
If he had a bad day, the key here is to be supportive.
Otherwise, the man you love will become distant and pull away from you, since you don’t give him enough space.
Don’t try to talk to him in the bedroom either.
He might be exhausted and want to sleep so that he ignores you for this reason.
Sometimes, it is better to let him sleep and talk to him directly in the morning than pushing forward and trying to speak to him immediately before you have breakfast.
Most guys are not communicative when it comes to emotions.
My Boyfriend Is Ignoring Me – What Should I Say to Help Him?
Sometimes you shouldn’t say anything, and sometimes it will be enough asking him a simple question like How was your day?
Then, he will open up to you.
However, most of the times, he will be a bit moody, and keep it all in, since he doesn’t want to worry you.
What you think is ignoring you, might be a strange way for him to show how much he loves you and cares for you.
By not saying anything to you because he doesn’t want to worry you.
As a man myself, I can tell you that when you are a boy, you learn to keep feelings and emotions to yourself, and you learn from a very young age that showing emotions publicly isn’t something you are supposed to do.
If you do, you are not a real man, but a whimper or something even worse.
By publicly shaming boys who show emotions, you will learn to suck it up and hide those feelings.
That is the reason why men are bad at displaying their emotions.
When you grew up, you were encouraged to show your emotions and talk about them, but men lack that kind of understanding.
For this reason, he will look at you for emotional guidance and support.
If you are able to provide him with that, your boyfriend will stop ignoring you, and you will be able to connect with him on an emotional level like he has never experienced before with another woman.
He will be so grateful to you and do everything he possibly can do to keep you by his side.
However, men also have a natural resistance to commitment.
So, even if you show him, and convince him that it is okay to display his feelings for you, he might still not commit to you.
He might be hesitant to commit to you for one very shocking reason.
Watch this YouTube-video to discover this SHOCKING reason now.*
My Boyfriend Is Ignoring Me – How Can I Make Him Sure?
As I explained to you above, society has different expectations of boys and girls, men and women.
Especially when it comes to relationships.
There are also a lot of myths about relationships floating around online these days, and it is hard to tell which are real and which are false.
However, there is one thing you can do to make him sure that you are the right woman for him, and that he will never be able to experience it in another relationship with another woman.
Watch this video, to discover how to make him sure that you’re the only one for him.*
I hope you take the time to watch the video.
It will be very beneficial to you if you want your boyfriend to stop ignoring you, and finally get the relationship that you both deserve and desire, the kind of relationship that you always wanted but never hoped to experience yourself.
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Take care,
