What went wrong?

I (F 28) had been talking with a guy (M 28) for over a month because of the corona virus and he was very patient with me and never tried to pressure me to see him until I was ready. He made effort every day to say good morning and we spoke on and off through every day.

We went out this weekend. It was my first date after my divorce. We had a great time. The state is now on a curfew order because of protests and I didn’t want to be out after 8 so we went to his place. It was never implied that that was what he was expecting and it was my idea to hang out there. Chemistry was there and we slept together at the end of the night. We had great conversations both lighthearted and intimate and personal. We shared some of our past relationship wounds and I expressed that my previous relationship often used the silent treatment against me and that I really don’t appreciate ghosting or being ignored and I prefer to communicate about things as they come up. He made multiple comments about seeing me again and insinuating a relationship was forming.

The next day I hardly heard from him. I had some conflict in another area of my life and reached out about my struggle and he never responded. This was unusual. I messaged and said “sorry, am I scaring ya away?” which was not unusual and we have a playful banter in other situations. Never replied. Still out of character. He texted me good morning the next morning and I asked what was wrong. He said “what do you mean?” And I explained that I felt like maybe I said or did something to turn him off since I didn’t hear from him after we were previously very intimate. Never heard from him. I waited another day. Called last night but he didn’t answer and I left a message. I said “I just wanted to check in, I hope you know I’m not trying to be negative or make accusations. I had a great time getting to know you and I would like to continue that and if there are hesitations or concerns you have, I’d love to hear those out. I am willing to do so in a respectful way. I’d just like to have that conversation.” I still haven’t heard from him.

I’m not going to put more effort in because at this point I’ve expressed my intentions and I don’t have space for people that ignore me.

But is there something blatantly wrong that you can see I should have done differently?

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