Women: How does your ability to have casual sex with really attractive men affect your perception of your attractiveness and expectations for the men you can marry?

I often wonder how women's ability to sleep with men much more attractive than themselves affects their perception of their own attractiveness, their "league" and expectations for the men they can marry.

As men we are ubiquitously aware of what league we fall into and what type of women would be interested in us. There is no inconsistency between women available to us for sex vs marriage. The league of women we can flirt and hookup with is usually also available to us for marriage, and if there is any inconsistency its in the opposite direction.

But women's options for casual sex and hookups tend to be a world apart from their options for serious relationships and marriage, so much so that the concept of leagues literally doesn't exist and just about any girl can get any guy for a hook-up. Dating apps like Tinder has made this inconsistency even more pronounced by allowing any plain looking, out of shape, wallflower girl to get attention and hook up offers from the most attractive men in the her vicinity, including struggling male models, gym trainers, musicians, etc.

So my question for women is how much this affects their perception about their own attractiveness? Do women silently know this and have a good laugh about this? Do they high-five each other after sleeping with guys far more attractive than themselves, realizing all the while that they will someday end up marrying a guy that is much less attractive than what they've experienced until he came along? Or are they unaware of the above-described phenomenon, and conclude that their sexual options/exploits accurately reflect their options for a spouse, only to be disappointed later in life?

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