I am not a dating guru or expert. Just writing my personal experience here. I catch myself often to not talk to woman because of shitty reasons like "maybe she has a boyfriend" "I am out of our league" etc etc.
It's bullcrap.
I just randomly startet to smile at random people. With no ulterior motives.
The grandma who is shopping next to you? Look her at her eyes and smile at her. What will she do? Stab you because you infiltrated her personal space? No she will smile back because of the handsome boy/girl you are.
A man is walking with his dog. Smile at his dog and then smile at him. And then continue your way.
The beautiful girl/man who is exactly your dream type? Look in his direction. If he/she catches your eye guess what… Smile.
The point in here is, don't make up excuses in your head by saying "maybe he/she doesn't find me attractive and won't smile back". Think more of "I will. Brighten this person's day just with my smile" even if it's just a small smirk.
You get the point.
You don't need to force yourself to approach these people immediately. But after some days/weeks. Take it to the next step. Just greet them. Say lines like "have a beautiful day".
If you go out of your comfort zone and feel motivated then start to approach people.
The easier it gets to just randomly smile at random people, the more easier it gets to approach random people.
Hope this helps our shy people here 🙂
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