Hello! At the beginning of the pandemic I commented on some girls IG story, and it flourished into a great convo. She went to the sister high school of mine.
It evolved into a friendship via texting and calling and snapchatting, and we’ve met up once and I could tell she was REALLY nervous, I felt bad 🙁 However, I’m impressed with her genuine interest in me…most people don’t push so hard (i.e. initiate texting every day many times a day) unless they have an agenda….
Anyway, she says and does these very flirty things (compliment the shit out of me, compliment my looks, send nice pictures of herself) and twice she did this thing where she would act all flustered and send me stuff that subtly indicate “where have you been all my life” or “i wish you were my bf ”. This throws me for a ride (because she’s pretty and i’m not used to this attention) and I totally reciprocate the flirts and the compliments.
But sometimes, probably once every three days, she says the most confusing things that make me question how i’m interpreting her behavior. Like three times now I sort of subtly hinted at my attraction to her, and she acts completely dumbfounded, and acts like she has no idea what i mean by those comments, and then I chicken out and don’t explain them. But she’s not stupid! She’s always sending me sly flirty stuff, but when i do it it just doesn’t seem to get the job done.
Anyway, we’ve been trying to hang out again, but I can’t tell if she wants to advance or not. She wants me to pick her up at 1am after a party where she’ll be getting drunk “to hang out” — I interpret this as she wants to fool around, especially since “what else is there to do at 1 am in suburbia?” THEN on a phone call yesterday she said “I mean yeah I’d like to hang out but I’m not really sure what we’d do except drive around”. I got frustrated! I mean it’s not like I expected her to say “oh yeah we’ll fool around” but also she sort of nullified the idea of anything fun because she acted as if the whole thing was a waste of time! Maybe I’m just sensitive. Maybe I’m supposed to be making moves! Or maybe I’m just seeing things I shouldn’t be seeing.
From this description, does it sound like she likes me? Is it a good idea to see if we’re into each other before or after we hang out next? If it turns out we aren’t into each other, have I just ruined the friendship?
Idk…I just have a weird feeling it could suffer a catastrophic failure if I mention feelings…But i have many indications that that shouldn’t happen! Can anyone relate and does anybody have advice?
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