Another advice that can apply to many:

If you waste your life spending time with people who you give what they want and who don't give you what you truly want, you'll grow up to become a resentful self hating, and women/men hating being. Her/his kind will be all you'll know and all that will guide your views of wo/men. Instead of thinking about how you messed up and let yourself stay in these situations, you'll likely blame wo/men either in their entirety, or largely as being this or that: I've seen it happen way too many times. Wo/men ranting about how they are "nice guys/ladies" who always get played. When in fact, most times I'd say it's a case of them continuing to allow themselves to stay in these circles over and over again: hoping that the nicer they are to the

(I use "devil" somewhat loosely here, sometimes a person might not even be it. Just that they don't feel the same and the "nice guy/lady" continues to stick around trying to on some level change them or wait for a change)

"devil" that the "devil" will one day wake up and realize how "nice" their partner is. Being nice isn't just about what how we are to others, it's also how we are to ourselves. You can't be abandoning being nice to yourselves enough to not allow yourselves to stay in toxic and one sided connections: while expecting better from others, it starts with you to be nice to yourself.

Don't act like a metaphorically speaking: a trash bag, a punching bag, and expect people to treat you like a queen/king/teddy bear. People who are out to victimize you, yes they are despicable. However what are YOU going to do to help YOUrselves to not continue to be their source of so and so when they don't deserve it from you given the dynamic you two are in? Next time you think of waiting around, being nicer, yadyada being the solution, I think you've better luck going up to a tree treating it nicely and hoping it'll grow money for you. There might be exceptions with specific background stories whether deep down they are good or not. However I'm speaking about the rule here.

Have better standards for yourselves, and most of all don't lie to yourselves about the mess you are making in your life. Take time to recognize, learn from it, and take responsibility for it.

Be(come) better, seek better, pursue better.

What are you thoughts?