If and when a woman ever gives me the slightest hint of "pushing" me away or "disinterest" I back off completely. Completely.
I know, as of recently, that I have the avoidant attachment style. For those not sure what that is, google the term. Despite me knowing this I do not fully recognize how it impacts my behavior. I may barely recognize it.
For example I used the terms "pushing" and "disinterest" up above. What you have to understand is that according to my biased perception, it is "pushing" and "disinterest" however it reality, that may not be the other person's intent. Another example, I don't chase women ever. If they "play hard to get" (whatever the hell that is) I know that I likely would interpret that as a negative sign and I leave the woman alone.
I give up very, very easily OR as I see it, I perceive all pushback as an expression that they want me to go away.
I may be wrong to frame this as avoidant but I'm not sure. I mention this because someone texted me earlier and I can't tell if she's "playing hard to get" but I gave up after a couple mins.
tldr
Is anyone avoidant in their attachment style with their attempt at a dating life? Is anyone here coping with those qualities?
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