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I’ve always had a habit of putting women on a pedestal.

First it was my High School crush. Became friends with her, confessed that I liked her, she said she’d rather us be friends. So I remained friends until she moved for college. But I still think about her.
Next it was my college crush. Matched with a girl on Tinder from my college but was too scared to make a move. After sleeping in the same bed 5 times on a trip to Montreal and me still too afraid to do anything, we became friends. After college she moved away and I still think about her.

There are many more, but those are the biggest two.

So now I’m 24 and this is beginning to get embarrassing that at night, when I’m lonely I still think about these people. I mean I never even dated them.

Anyone else have a similar problem? How do you stop thinking about people you never even really dated and wondering what if?

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As someone who uses excuses to not focus on dating as much as I probably should, social distancing is a perfect excuse for me to be content with being by myself.

I no longer have to go out to bars with the hope that I’ll see a women I want to meet. I no longer have to worry about my friends that take forever to get ready/coordinate plans.

I no longer have to worry about what I would say if I see someone I want to meet, or how to get their number, or how I would ask them back to my place. I don’t have to worry about cleaning up my place in the hopes that I do meet someone, to just return home alone every time I do clean. And finally, I don’t have to worry about performing well in bed.

At least from the guys perspective, dating takes a ton of work. It’s like a job interview where I’m also a tour guide/consultant. I have to literally plan everything. I have to know the best bars and parks, I have to coordinate the transportation. And if I mess up on anything, there is a good chance I won’t see them again.

It’s just nice to just turn off all that and have an excuse to put off dating for a few more months.

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How do you get over people you never really dated?

Anyone else feel relieved/happier social distancing?

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