First: It's already a numbers game whether we like it or not.
Second: Does anyone else find this to be devastating and problematic?
Scenario: I message/like/swipe right on someone I really want to speak to. Then I don't hear back from them. Then I message/like/swipe right on someone I feel less motivated by. Then I don't hear back from them. Then I message/like/swipe right on someone I feel indifferent towards. Then I don't hear back from them.
After all this I just message/like/swipe right on almost anyone.
This isn't fair to them. It's not exactly fair to ourselves either.
Should we be more cautious when treating this as a numbers game? It ends up creating a lot of noise for some women. It floods their inbox. It also positions some of us men in the situation of not being picky enough. I know, I know that some of us would get dramatically fewer dates if we didn't play the numbers game but maybe that's what we have to cope with (this includes me).
submitted by /u/rpeg
[link] [comments]
