So, this has been a problem ever since I was a kid and it's the biggest reason why I have a fear of social interaction along with a general anxiety in social situations. Ever wondered how awkward it is to ask someone to repeat what they've said three times and still not understand what they're saying?
Yeah, that's one of my biggest fears. Not just that but the humiliation it comes with the person just saying, "nevermind", and walking away from me.
I'm deaf but when I wear a hearing aid, I'm able to hear very well and can just barely get by with people if I'm able to understand their speech patterns. People I'm close with, I have little to no issue in understanding because I'm used to their speech pattern and the sounds they make. For some people, I really just can't make out the words they say at all, it's just pure gibberish and I wish I had subtitles pop up in front of them so I could understand.
I'm extremely proficient in my speech and I have an excellent understanding of the English language. No weird quirks. Loud and clear speech. So, there's honestly no issue on the other end when it comes to understanding what I'm saying.
I'm more interested in dating hearing people and not deaf people. While I'm proficient in sign language — deaf people are just too different from what I seek in a partner. They think differently, are pretty rare to find and they're unlikely to be as well-educated or knowledgeable which makes it difficult to hold the sort of conversations I'd like to hold with them.
But on the other hand, it is really difficult for me to engage in social interaction. I know most people give up or freeze up when it comes to interacting with someone who might not understand what they're saying. How would you deal with someone like me? Would you want to deal with someone like me?
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