I've been struggling with my sexuality for many years, and I felt like I didn't fit in as I grew up. Even if I knew I'm straight, I still didn't get a "Oh, there is a hot guy!!" concept when we were teenagers. I didn't get why people would have a celebrity crush.
I've heard of demisexual term years ago, and I did my homework. At first, I thought it didn't fit me until I learned that all demisexuals are different. Demisexuals can still be straight, gay, or have no gender preference. Demisexuals can still enjoy sex. They can have a very active sexual fantasy life.
Okay….so I'm a demisexual. I'd feel a sexual attraction as I developed an emotion bond. No wonder why I end up having feelings for my FWB of 3 years!! We are also friends, and we have a good conversation in general!! I'm currently only sexually attracted to him, but I doubt that we will get together. Oh, well.
Anyway, I generally don't get the "flirting." When someone expressed romantic or sexual interest in me, I often got anxious or uncomfortable. I'm also aware many people dislike the "friend zone," but I like the idea of dating friends.
Demisexuals don't waste their time on going on another date with someone unless they are sure absolutely attracted to. That sounds like me!! I was always uncertain about other guys. I remember one guy was interested in me, but I was uncomfortable. I felt that he got attached to me too quickly meanwhile I needed some time. It's first time I'm absolutely attracted to someone. Yes, that's my FWB but too bad I don't think he wants to go out with me.
So… how do demisexuals get a relationship? Typocal dating methods may not work for them such as going on dates with multiple people and etc. Demisexual needs to have a friendship first, so dating apps wouldn't be a good idea to make new friends. I remember guys came on dating subreddits and complained that girls joined Tinder to just make friends meanwhile they were looking for girlfriends or fun.
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