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Does anyone else feel so defeated, exhausted, and like giving up on life thanks to dating?

We all know how much of a shit show it all is nowadays where you can’t even get a date anymore before being ghosted. When’s the last time anyone ever had a conversation off a dating app that didn’t end up being disappointing in some shape or form? I really can’t remember any on my end. I’m constantly disappointed in the results of my best efforts. I’m not meeting any single people in my daily life either anymore. And forget sex and hookups — Everyone’s having them apparently, but for me, it has never even been a remote possibility for a long, long time.

And then there’s the pandemic, and how it’s put our dating lives on hold. Even if our starts start re-opening, it’s not like we can date normally anymore, and a lot of people have told me that they will be so much more selective about dates going forward for that reason.

Above all, I feel defeated. I’ve thrown all I’ve had into dating, and between life not presenting options and dating apps being a huge energy and soul-sucking endeavor, it has killed me.

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What Can Men and Women Do Better to Get On the Same Page About Dating?

If I am correctly interpreting the biggest gripes of men and women in today’s dating scene it’s that:

  • Women are tired of being misled by men who change their minds or ghost after going on several dates or having sex with a guy
  • Guys are frustrated that they can’t even get a date
  • Women seem to think men on dating aps are dating regularly and have as many quality options as they do
  • Men think women are swimming in a bottomless pool of great options, are dating thre or more guys at once, and that dating and having sex is never a problem for them
  • Women are tired of men acting like fools almost instantly when messaging them because men can’t carry intelligent conversations, send horny messages, send pictures of their dicks, or want to see nudes
  • Men are tired of matching with women who don’t reply back, barely put effort into messaging them, breadcrumb, or ghost them quickly
  • Everyone wants the other side to see it from their perspective
  • Nobody feels like the other side is making an effort to
  • A ton of people feel hopeless about dating and it wears down their self-esteem

The question is: Taking all of this into account: what can men and women do better to get on the same page about dating?

Guys, what do you wish women would understand better?

Ladies, what do you wish guys would do a better job at?

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